As we age, it is natural for our mental processes to change in some ways. However, sudden onset of anxiety symptoms or avoidance of normal activities is not a natural sign of aging. If your elderly loved one begins to develop the signs of a phobia, here is what you can do to help.
Here's How:
Discuss the Situation: Many elderly people see phobias and other mental disorders as a sign of weakness, and may not volunteer information. Gently talk to your loved one about your concerns.
It may be helpful to present the situation as a medical concern. Although some older adults associate a stigma with mental disorders, this is usually not the case for physical illnesses.
The use of metaphors or other descriptive language may be helpful. Some people become defensive when they feel confronted, but are willing to listen to a description of their loved ones' concerns.
Get a Full Medical Workup: Particularly in seniors, many physical illnesses can cause symptoms that may resemble those of a phobia.
Encourage a Therapist Visit: If there is no medical reason for the symptoms, try to encourage your loved one to see a therapist. Phobia medications can cause complications in older people, particularly those with certain medical conditions. If the sufferer is willing to see a therapist, he or she may be able to avoid medication.
Be Supportive: Mental illnesses are very difficult for many elderly people, who grew up in an age of stigmatization. Be calm, loving and supportive of your loved one’s concerns.
Be Understanding: What looks like a phobia may actually be a reasonable fear. For example, if your loved one has had a bad fall, he or she may be legitimately afraid of falling in public.
Maintain Boundaries: Do not allow your concern for your loved one to overshadow his or her need for independence. Remain available and helpful, but do not give in to the temptation to take over.
